Dating after 25 years of marriage
Still, plenty of breakups occur after a relationship of many years. Half a century ago, an unhappy couple in their mid-60s might have stayed together because they thought it wasn't worth divorcing if they had only a few years left to live.Although some people are able to negotiate the inevitable bumps in the road, for others those bumps turn into a sinkhole — something that they cannot seem to climb out of. Now, 65-year-olds can easily envision at least 20 more active years — and they don't want them to be loveless, or full of frustration or disappointment.Suffering comes from our attachment to our thoughts about what happens, not what actually happens.
They're different from the 50-year-olds who lived before them.En español | By now, it's an old story: one-half of a high-profile and long-married couple — usually the man, truth be told — admits to having an affair.Sometimes, the couple's marriage can withstand the infidelity; other times, the breach of trust is too deep, and a split or divorce ensues.Now, I realize that there are no "shoulds." There is only what is.By ditching the "shoulds" and consciously accepting and being open to whatever unfolds, I have been able to alleviate most of my pain and suffering.